From Survival to Security is a thoughtfully designed attachment-focused guide for adults who want to better understand their relationship patterns and develop a more secure way of connecting — with others and with themselves.
Grounded in attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and trauma-informed care, this booklet offers education, reflection, and gentle exercises to help you make sense of anxiety, avoidance, push–pull dynamics, and emotional reactivity in relationships.
Rather than pathologizing behavior, this guide reframes attachment patterns as adaptive survival strategies — ways your nervous system learned to seek safety and connection. With insight and compassion, these patterns can be understood, softened, and slowly reshaped.
This is not a quick fix or surface-level worksheet. It’s a calm, self-paced companion designed to support awareness, regulation, and choice over time.
What attachment is and how it forms in the nervous system
The four attachment styles and how they show up in adult relationships
Protest and distancing strategies — and why they make sense
A relationship history inventory to identify repeating patterns
What secure attachment actually looks and feels like
Attachment-based core beliefs and how they develop
A grounded process for gently rewriting those beliefs
Embodiment and visualization practices to support nervous system change
Reflection prompts to integrate insight into daily life
You notice repeating patterns in relationships
You experience anxiety, shutdown, or push–pull dynamics
You want to understand why you react the way you do — not just change it
You’re interested in earning secure attachment over time
You want a trauma-informed, compassionate approach (not blame or pressure)
From Survival to Security is a thoughtfully designed attachment-focused guide for adults who want to better understand their relationship patterns and develop a more secure way of connecting — with others and with themselves.
Grounded in attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and trauma-informed care, this booklet offers education, reflection, and gentle exercises to help you make sense of anxiety, avoidance, push–pull dynamics, and emotional reactivity in relationships.
Rather than pathologizing behavior, this guide reframes attachment patterns as adaptive survival strategies — ways your nervous system learned to seek safety and connection. With insight and compassion, these patterns can be understood, softened, and slowly reshaped.
This is not a quick fix or surface-level worksheet. It’s a calm, self-paced companion designed to support awareness, regulation, and choice over time.
What attachment is and how it forms in the nervous system
The four attachment styles and how they show up in adult relationships
Protest and distancing strategies — and why they make sense
A relationship history inventory to identify repeating patterns
What secure attachment actually looks and feels like
Attachment-based core beliefs and how they develop
A grounded process for gently rewriting those beliefs
Embodiment and visualization practices to support nervous system change
Reflection prompts to integrate insight into daily life
You notice repeating patterns in relationships
You experience anxiety, shutdown, or push–pull dynamics
You want to understand why you react the way you do — not just change it
You’re interested in earning secure attachment over time
You want a trauma-informed, compassionate approach (not blame or pressure)
